Sex issues : I engaged in sexual activities with my boyfriend. We used…

Q: I engaged in sexual activities with my boyfriend. We used a condom but after intercourse, my vagina became red. Is this common?

A: No, this is not common. It could have been an allergy due to latex. Check with your chemist for non-latex condoms.

Q: I am 70 years old and my wife is 57. The frequency of intercourse has reduced drastically. Is there a way to fix the problems with my penis?

I am 70 years old and my wife is 57. Neither of us has any health problems, though I have been taking the lowest dose of tablets for hypertension for the last five years. We had quite a satisfactory sex life. In the last few years, I used to take Caverta 50 mg and one capsule of Gold Vita one hour before having sex, along with two or three large pegs of alcohol, and it used to give me good erections. My penis used to have a fairly good length and thickness when erect. But for the last two years, I have noticed that the length of the penis has reduced and the base has also shrunk. I have not been taking Caverta for some time now, but the erections are not very strong. As for my wife, she has reached menopause. We have tried using KY jelly as a lubricant but she does not like to use it. I don’t want to hurt her, so I don’t insist on penetrative sex. She doesn’t like giving me oral sex but she does it all the same. Sometimes I don’t achieve orgasm with oral sex, so she gets tired and switches to giving me a hand job instead. This does not satisfy me either. The frequency of intercourse has also reduced drastically. Is there a way to fix the problems with my penis, and help to regain its length?

A2: The penis is not known to shrink at any time or at any age unless there is a specific disease. My assumption is that possibly the shrinking, as you call it, is due to an age-related collection of fat and muscle around the penis. Everyone experiences a certain amount of natural decline in general sexual abilities as age catches up. Do not expect your erections to always be as strong as they were in your 50s. However, you may visit a sexpert. Your wife can visit a gynaecologist for advice on hormonal treatment if required.