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Sex problems FAQs : My wife has had no interest in sex right from the beginning of our marriage. She likes touching and…

Q : How can one be sure if one is gay? Is there a test or a quiz I can take?

A : Every gay person is unique. There is no test and you are the only person who can figure it out. Your sexual orientation may change over time. Your feelings may indicate your sexual leaning in time. Join a forum or support group to understand where you stand.

Q : I am 54 years old and my wife is 53. We have been married for 23 years and have a 22-year-old son. My wife has had no interest in sex right from the beginning of our marriage. She likes touching and hugging, but not being penetrated. Whenever I had sex with her, she was not willing. She got a hysterectomy done around 10 years back and has had no periods since. I understand that her vagina now has less lubrication. But I have urges for sex. I masturbate to get satisfaction. What can I do?

A : It is not unusual to experience dryness, especially after a hysterectomy. Vaginal lubricants will help. Also investigate if there is any other problem that needs to be talked about with your wife. Visit a counsellor who can help you both.

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Wedding pics : Chandan Shetty and Nivedita gowda; Bigg Boss Kannada 5 winner ties knot

Bigg Boss Kannada 5 Winner Chandan Shetty Marries Niveditha Gowda

New Delhi: 

Bigg Boss Kannada 5 winner Chandan Shetty’s latest Instagram post calls for congratulations. On Thursday, Chandan gave his Instafam a sneak peek into his wedding festivities by sharing a picture with his wife Niveditha Gowda. The couple can be seen smiling with all their hearts in the photograph, which appears to be from their wedding ceremony. The bride wore a red saree for her big day, while the groom can be seen wearing a white veshti and a matching shawl. Chandan shared the big news on social media and wrote, “Status: Married” and added a heart emoji. Chandan Shetty and Niveditha Gowda’s romance began on the TV reality show Bigg Boss Kannada Season 5. Chandan won the show that season.

Take a look at the post here:

Meanwhile, Niveditha Gowda shared a lovely picture with Chandan on her Instagram profile. In the picture, Niveditha can be seen dressed in a sequined black gown, while Chandan complements her in a tuxedo. She captioned the post: “From Ms to Mrs Chandan Shetty. I love you, my king.”

Chandan and Niveditha got engaged in October, last year. Here are the pictures from the couple’s engagement ceremony :

Chandan Shetty proposed to Niveditha at a public event in October, last year. Sharing the picture from the special moment, Chandan wrote: “Love you forever my queen. Thank you so much for accepting me. I thank each and every one who supported our love.”

Maharashtra The Buzz

Marathi language compulsory for all schools in Maharashtra now; Maharashtra Assembly passes law

The Maharashtra Compulsory Teaching and Learning of Marathi Language in Schools Bill, 2020 was unanimously passed on Thursday.

The Shiv Sena-led Maharashtra government has made Marathi compulsory in schools affiliated with all boards with a fine of Rs 1 lakh for institutions that fail to comply with the directive. On Thursday, the Maharashtra Assembly unanimously approved a bill making Marathi a compulsory subject in all schools of the state.

According to the bill, there will be a penal provision for levying fine on schools that do not comply with the new rule. The Maharashtra Compulsory Teaching and Learning of Marathi Language in Schools Bill, 2020 was already passed in the upper house of the state on Wednesday.

While the opposition welcomed the move, it also raised objections citing lacunae that will result in failure of implementation. There are many loopholes in the provisions and the penalty is low, were some of their claims along with claims that a clause of exemption may be misused by the high and mighty, said Leader of Opposition Devendra Fadnavis.

Here are some important highlights of the law.

  • This law will be applicable to all boards like CBSE, CISCE, IB, IGSCE, NIOS
  • Marathi language shall be taught as a compulsory subject from classes 1-10 in all schools in the state in a phased manner starting the academic year 2020-21
  • The language shall be introduced at class 1 and 6 from the academic year 2020-21 and shall be extended to further classes progressively
  • The law also states that no restrictions shall be imposed on speaking Marathi in schools in the state, directly or indirectly
  • Marathi teaching and assessment of students in Marathi will be a mandatory condition for granting the government’s no-objection certificate for schools
  • The person responsible for the management of school affairs violating provisions of this act shall be liable to pay a penalty of up to Rs 1 Lakh
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Delhi Violence : Naresh Gujral writes to Amit Shah over police inaction after his repetitive complains

Northeast Delhi has been on the edge since Sunday with vandalism, arson and unrest over CAA.

New Delhi: 

Shiromani Akali Dal MP Naresh Gujral has written to Home Minister Amit Shah and Delhi Lieutenant Governor Anil Baijal, accusing the Delhi Police of inaction and apathy while dealing with complaints during the violent clashes in northeast Delhi since Sunday, in which 35 people have been killed and over 200 injured. The Delhi Police reports to the Home Ministry.

Mr Gujral, whose party is an ally of the ruling BJP, said the police took no action on his request for assistance to 16 Muslims who were trapped in a house in northeast Delhi’s Maujpur locality on Wednesday night while a mob was trying to break in, despite him telling them he is a Member of Parliament.

“I explained the urgency of the situation and told the operator that I am a Member of Parliament. At 11:43 pm, I received a confirmation from the Delhi Police that my complaint had been received along with the reference number 946603… However, much to my disappointment, no action was taken on my complaint and those 16 individuals received no assistance whatsoever from the Delhi Police” Mr Gujral wrote.

The Akali Dal MP said the 16 Muslims managed to escape only because some Hindu neighbours came to their rescue. 

“If this is the situation when a Member of Parliament makes a complaint personally, it is not surprising that certain parts of Delhi continue to burn while the police stands by apathetically,” the letter added.

Northeast Delhi has been on the edge since Sunday with vandalism, arson and unrest over the contentious citizenship law. Hundreds of police and paramilitary personnel are patrolling the streets of the region amid reports of sporadic violence today. 


35 people have died in violence clashes in Delhi since Sunday

In December, the rift between the Akalis and the BJP had emerged after Mr Gujral had told NDTV, “We feel the Muslim community should be included in the citizenship law”. He had also issued a veiled warning to the BJP at the time, saying several parties in the BJP-led front were unhappy with the way they had been treated.

However, the Akali Dal, late last month declared that certain “misunderstandings” between the two parties have been amicably resolved.

Due to the controversial citizenship law, Indian citizenship will be awarded on the basis of religion for the first time. The government says it will help non-Muslim refugees from three Muslim-dominated neighbouring countries if they fled to India because of religious persecution. Critics say the law violates secular tenets of the constitution.


class 10, 12 CBSE board exams postponed for Feb 28, 29 in northeast Delhi

CBSE has just announced that the CBSE Class 10, 12 board exams have been postponed for February 28 and 29, 2020 in 80 board exam centres located in northeast Delhi. Here’s the full list of CBSE Board exam centres that have been postponed.

The Central Board of Secondary Education (CBSE) has come up with a new notice today. In a tweet, CBSE has notified that due to the high-rise in Delhi violence, CBSE is going to postpone February 28, 29 exams in northeast Delhi region. The exams which were going to happen on the above mentioned dates will now take place after some relief in northeast region.

CBSE states that we have cancelled the board exams which were going to take place on February 28 and 29, 2020. This decision was taken as the law and order situation in Delhi’s northeast deteriorated areas.

CBSE Board exam cancelled

Previously, CBSE has also cancelled the Class 12th Board exam for February 27 i.e. today in 80 exam centres in North-east Delhi area.

The Delhi High Court has also ordered CBSE to bring out a long-term plan for the board exams 2020 in light of the violence-hit north-east Delhi where board exams have been postponed.

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Rs 10 lakh for kin of deceased, Rs 5 lakh for those who lost homes: Arvind Kejriwal announces his relief package

Arvind Kejriwal on Thursday announced that Delhi government will give a compensation of Rs 10 lakh to the families of deceased and Rs 5 lakh will be given as compensation to the families of the minors who died in the Delhi violence.

Delhi Chief Minister on Thursday announced that Rs 10 lakh each will be provided to the kin of the deceased and Rs 5 lakh each to the families of the minors who died in the Delhi violence.

Rs 5 lakh each will be given to those who have been permanently disabled and Rs 2 lakh each will be given to those who were severely injured. People who sustained minor injuries will be given Rs 20,000 each.

“A compensation of Rs 10 lakh each to families of those who have died will be provided,” Arvind Kejriwal said.

Delhi government said that Rs 3 lakh each will be given to those who have been orphaned in the Delhi riots.

Arvind Kejriwal said that a sum of Rs 5 lakh each will be provided to those whose houses were completely burnt. Rs 1 lakh each will be given to tenants for their lost belongings and Rs 4 lakh each to the house owners. Rs 2.5 lakh each will be given to those whose houses have sustained substantial damages but not burnt down completely.

Arvind Kejriwal said that Rs 5 lakh each will be given to those whose shop have been gutted and Rs 25,000 each as immediate relief to those whose homes have been totally destroyed.

If a person has lost an animal in the Delhi riots, they will be given Rs 5,000 for every animal they have lost.

Rs 25,000 each for damages to rickshaw has been promised by the Delhi government along with Rs 50,000 each for damages to e-rickshaws.

“Delhi government to bear expenses of treatment of those injured in riots and admitted to private hospitals,” Arvind Kejriwal said.

Bollywood The Buzz

Taapsee: I would not play a Kabir Singh unless there was payback for that behaviour

Taapsee Pannu opens up on Thappad being compared to Kabir Singh, Bollywood’s contribution in changing mindsets, and her biggest fear.

On February 28, Taapsee Pannu takes the stage as Amrita, or the more endearing Ammu, in Anubhav Sinha’s Thappad. Her on-screen persona of the docile and calm Ammu, however, is far removed from the Taapsee sitting across us, as we speak to her just ahead of the release. “Taapsee is an impulsive person,” she says, thumping the table, “But Ammu is not,” she explains.

Is there something of Ammu she has imbibed? She sighs and leans forward, “Patience!”

Dressed casually in off-white linen pants and a pink linen top, minimal make-up on, Taapsee has flown into the national capital early morning and has had to park herself at that corner of the table, talking to journalists one after another. “Patience,” Taapsee repeats. Indeed.

We continue talking.

Excerpts from the interview:

How did Amrita change you? Through the course of Thappad, did you identify little things as wrong, that you probably ignored or let go of earlier?

Not changed, as such. I always knew these things, which is also why I chose to do Thappad. But I have definitely learned how to deal with them better and to be more patient like Amrita. Taapsee is an impulsive person. She isn’t someone to think about how her words or actions might affect others. Mujhe jo thik lagega, main kar dungi (I will do what I think is right). Amrita isn’t that person. She will take into account how her actions might affect others, ensure no one is hurt, and then act.

But isn’t this ‘think about others’ what’s holding most of us back?ADVERTISEMENT

It would if you decide against doing it. But one needs to ensure the damage is minimal. Like in Thappad, Amrita knows that her decision to divorce Vikram, her husband (played by Pavail Gulati) will affect him and the rest of the family. She doesn’t stop because of that, instead she steadily moves ahead, sternly sticking her ground, ensuring that she stands up for the wrong without hurting anyone in the process.

We saw Chhapaak in January and now Thappad, both holding a mirror to misogyny and patriarchy. But do films really have the power to change the society?

No, they don’t. We’re giving Bollywood way too much power if we were to believe that it could change the society. At the most, it can trigger a conversation. It doesn’t matter how long that conversation lasts, any conversation at the moment is important. That I think both Thappad and Chhapaak have done.

Thappad is the story of an urban couple based in Delhi. Was the upper-middle-class connect a conscious decision? Could Thappad have been based in a Tier-3 city?

It could have been set in a Tier-3 city, but inka urban lifestyle dikhana zaroori tha (showing their urban lifestyle was important) simply because many of us feel ki inki society mein aisa nahin hota (that such things do not happen in their society). That will have a larger connect with the audience, and also help hold a mirror to the wrongs we’re doing, despite being supposedly educated and aware.

Is messaging ever the aim of a film?

No, that should never be the aim…

But, at the same time, there’s a certain responsibility you shoulder. How do you balance it?

Absolutely. You can never present a biased point of view because then you’re cutting off a section of the society. Also, when you lay out the story and allow the audience to decide for themselves, there’s more involvement on their part, which I feel makes it a more exciting experience for the audience.

And what about the personal responsibility as an actor? Like what kind of scripts will you choose or reject…

Oh that’s a tricky one. But I am aware that I’m working in Bollywood and not in Hollywood where the audience is capable of seeing cinema and the actor as purely cinema and actors. Here, the audience is passionate, they have temples for actors. So, we are big influencers in a way. Like after Salman Khan’s Tere Naam, everyone on the streets had that hairstyle. And when Shah Rukh Khan said “pyaar dosti hai”, we started looking at our friends differently. So we cannot deny that there’s a huge responsibility, and one needs to be aware of it. I am.

And that brings us to the next question. The trailer of Thappad immediately placed it as a foil to Kabir Singh. Internet compared the two, most hailing Thappad for getting right what Kabir Singh got wrong. Do you agree with this comparison?

It is, frankly, belittling to say that we made an entire movie just to respond to Kabir Singh or Arjun Reddy before that. Thappad was conceived before Kabir Singh released. It just so happened that when the trailer dropped, Kabir Singh was still hot in the market.

But yeah, that’s where your previous question comes in – responsibility. As an actor, I would not play a character like that if it were offered to me, unless I know that at the end of the story, there’s a payback for him for behaving that way. There has to be some ramification. Not that I have anything against grey characters; I have played an antagonist, and honestly, it’s an actor’s candy to play grey shades. But within the scope of that film, if he walks out without any punishment, I have a problem. I know, a popular argument is that Kabir has suffered enough internally, but that isn’t enough for me. Now, I’m not saying that that actor shouldn’t have done the role, to each their own.

As far as the comparison is concerned, Kabir Singh wasn’t about that one slap, no? There were a lot of other things in that film. That slap stuck to a certain section of the audience and when Thappad’s trailer came out, they were triggered.

Is there a particular role you look back at now and think that perhaps you would have done it differently, or even said no to?

I would have performed every role differently. Even Thappad. The first time I saw Thappad was at the edit. And I hated myself. I felt there was so much room for improvement. Anubhav sir didn’t think so, he was happy, but I am too critical. And that’s for all my older films.

As far as choosing differently is concerned, I think the films I did before Pink, where I was kind of testing the waters to see where my career is headed. When Pink happened, I knew my direction thereon.

OTT right now is a tough competition for films. As an audience, it’s great, because we can easily choose between watching a film and streaming something. But is that an extra pressure to get it right, both in terms of content and commerce, in movies now?

Immense pressure, especially for medium-budget films. See, small-budget films recover the cost from satellite rights, and big-budget films are massy, so they’ll have audience thronging to the theatres. But medium-budget content-driven films sometimes suffer. The audience’s general mindset anyway is that theatre mein kyu jaana, jab OTT pe aa jayegi, dekh lenge (why go to the theatres, we’ll watch it when it’s released on OTT platforms), so the bar is really high.

But more than that, I live in the fear that an audience will spend those 300 bucks and those three hours of their life on my film, walk out of the theatre and say mera time waste ho gaya (I wasted my time). Because money can be earned back, but if I hear from my audience that I wasted their time, it’s very hurtful. That’s my responsibility to the audience.

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Pink Floyd’s Roger Waters Says CAA “Fascist”, Reads Delhi Activist’s Poem

The video has been widely shared by critics of the Citizenship (Amendment) Act amid violence in Delhi over those for and against the law.

New Delhi: 

Pink Floyd co-founder Roger Waters referred to the controversial citizenship law CAA at an event in London, where he also recited from the poem of a Delhi poet-activist Aamir Aziz. 

Introducing the 30-year-old poet from Jamia Milllia Islamia, the guitarist said he was involved in the fight against Prime Minister Narendra Modi and his “fascist, racist citizenship law”. The event was held on Saturday to demand the release of Julian Assange.

He was talking about a global movement that the “fragile planet” desperately needed and referred to protests in other parts of the world, including India.

“This is a young man none of us know. His name is Aamir Aziz. And he is a young poet and activist in Delhi. He is involved in the fight against Modi and his fascist, racist citizenship law,” said Roger Waters, drawing applause from the gathering.

He went on to recite from Azis’s poem: 

“Everything will be remembered.
Killers, we will become ghosts
and write of your killings,
with all the evidence.
You write jokes in courts,
we will write justice on the walls.
We will speak so loudly that
even the deaf will hear.
We will write so clearly that
even the blind will read.
You write injustice on the earth,
We will write revolution in the sky.”

Pink Floyd's Roger Waters Says CAA 'Fascist', Reads Delhi Activist's Poem

Pink Floyd bass player Roger Waters recited the poem in London on Saturday.New Delhi: 

The video has been widely shared by critics of the Citizenship (Amendment) Act amid violence in Delhi over those for and against the law.

35 people have been killed and over 200 injured in the clashes that erupted on Sunday evening between rival protesters.

The CAA, enacted in December, has been at the core of protests across the country by those who believe the law discriminates against Muslims as it offers Indian citizenship to non-Muslims from Pakistan, Bangladesh and Afghanistan who fled religious persecution and entered India before 2015.

Business The Buzz

Oyo’s Ritesh Agarwal is the world’s second youngest self-made billionaire

NEW DELHI : Oyo Hotels founder Ritesh Agarwal has been crowned as the world’s second youngest billionaire. At the age of 24, his wealth was estimated at $1.1 billion ( ₹7,800 crore) in the Hurun Global Rich List 2020. Agarwal comes second only after cosmetics queen Kylie Jenner who has also amassed $1.1 billion at the age of 22.

Started in 2013, SoftBank-backed Oyo Hotels has already become the largest hotel chain in India and its valuation has soared to $10 billion. As the startup expands to the US and Europe after becoming the second largest chain in China, Oyo has chalked out ambitious plans of becoming the world’s largest hotel chain in 2023.

Ritesh Agarwal, a college dropout, is also the richest self-made Indian aged under 40. Zerodha founders Nithin Kamath and Nikhil Kamath, both in their 30s, are also among India’s richest young self-made billionaires. They are followed by Flipkart co-founders Sachin Bansal and Binny Bansal ($1 billion each) and Byjus’ Raveendran family ($1.4 billion).

The young and rich list has 90 billionaires aged 40 or under, up 5 from last year. Out of them, 54 billionaires are self-made while 36 inherited wealth. The list is dominated by China and USA who have 25 young billionaires each.

India has a total of 137 billionaires in 2020, up by 33 from last year. With a wealth of $67 billion, Reliance Industries chairman Mukesh Ambani is the richest man in India and the ninth richest in the world.

Mumbai has the largest number of billionaires (50) in India while Bengaluru has 17, Ahmedabad 12 and Hyderabad 7.

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US TikTok star has a close brush with death in ice water to shoot video

A US TikTok star had a close brush with death while he tried to swim in ice water in Utah to record a video.

TikTok changed the game for a lot of people. The Chinese video-sharing app, that has over 1 billion followers made fame accessible for a lot of users. To get more followers, the video makers have to come up with something innovative and never-done-before in every video but this more often than not end up the way one would hope.

A TikTok user recently had a close brush with death while he was trying to make a TikTok video. Jason Clark thought that it would be a good idea to swim in icy water in Utah and record a video, little did he know that it would turn out like this.

Jason took to his Instagram to share the video with the caption explaining the whole situation. He wrote, “I have never been this close to dying. I didn’t think my eyeballs would freeze so quick. The surface of the water where the hole was didn’t look any different than the bottom of the ice. When I flipped around and felt solid ice I thought I was at the hole.”

He added, “When I wasn’t that’s when I decided to head back and follow the dust I kicked up. The dust I kicked up had drifted and led me further away. I then tried to break the ice with my back, you can see in the video. I don’t know what made me turn around one last time. I was so short on breath I couldn’t really see anymore. I had accepted that was it and I wasn’t going to make it.”

He finally wrote, “I swung my hand at what I thought was just a lighter spot of ice and my hand came through. I then got a ton of energy to stand up. It took 2-3 breaths to regain my vision after resurfacing. Aftermath is in the other video. When there are scary moments I joke a lot.” He added that the friend who was recording the video thought it was a prank, “she genuinely thought it was another one of my jokes and didn’t recognize the severity of the situation.”

The video shows Jason going under the icy water and trying to swim. It is evident that he was having a difficult time trying to get out. He shared another video that shows the shocked state that Jason was in when he finally came out of the water. He wrote, “I have never been this close to dying in my life. Another second or two I wouldn’t have made it. Last moment I popped out of the ice. Real reality check!”

As his video went viral, people started sharing their extreme experiences with ice water. One user wrote, “My dad’s buddy tried this. My dad snapped a pic of him sitting on the edge of the hole smiling, giving the thumbs up, just before he went under. He never surfaced. And my dad never got over it. Growing up on a lake in Canada, we were taught early to fear the ice. Your first attempt is a great example of how quickly you can become disoriented under that ice. You’re luckier than you probably realize my friend.”