We have learned that crying at work is the worst thing to do. Unless someone dies, shed tears for Rage, frustration, despair or helplessness seems to be prohibited, because it could imply that the person is not capable of carrying out their task with the required professionalism.
However, according to statistics, approximately 50% of workers admit to having cried at their job; and this occurs to a greater extent among women – who have traditionally been given more freedom to show their emotions – than among men.
But, crying should not be seen as something to regret. Anyone can find themselves on the edge and burst into tears, like a cathartic manifestation to release their tension.
It is true that a good Emotional education allows us to manage situations in the best possible way at each moment and in each place, and that crying should not go beyond being an occasional and never habitual expression, but when one has downloaded their problems in this way in the workplace, it it is better to review the emotional state and try to find solutions.
Crying does not mean being incompetent. Crying is a biological response to distress, it has nothing to do with performance, and it cannot damage a professional reputation. It does not even usually create a bad work environment, unlike toxic, manipulative, unfair or intimidating situations that do undermine corporate well-being. Crying only shows that the person is human and needs support.
Do not be ashamed, but show your face. Emotions are neither good nor bad, you just have to recognize and manage them. It is necessary to face the situation a posteriori, when the person feels calm. It is not about apologizing, but it is about accepting the emotional explosion, saying why it happened – “this frustrates me”, “I felt it was unfair because of the time I had devoted …” -, thanking the help provided and the understanding . We must express our disagreement if this is the case, but ensure that we will continue forward and that we will try to do things differently.
It is better prevent. People who know how to communicate, assertively defend their rights, express feelings, build good self-esteem and an adequate self-concept are less likely to explode emotionally. But no one is safe. When you foresee that you are going to overflow, you can ask for a break, move away, go to the bathroom, drink water … and take deep breaths. As soon as you can, you should go back and face the situation.
Search for solutions. It is important to control emotions, especially those that make others uncomfortable, who often do not know what to do beyond offering a Kleenex to the one who cries. Most likely, crying awakens empathy, which will allow you to get closer to a partner with whom you can talk about what is happening, something always healing. Each one knows why they have reached this situation and will have to find a way to resolve it, not deny it or hide it. If something goes wrong, it is necessary to analyze it calmly and face its remedy with good emotional tools.
Whether we are the protagonists or the spectators of tears, we must know that anyone can cry at work, which communicates that we are human, reduces anxiety, relieves, reduces stress, it releases oppression, it makes us feel better… As Charlotte Brontë wrote, “crying does not indicate that you are weak. Since we are born, it is a sign that we are alive.