Sex problem FAQs :My colleague inserted his penis in my vagina. Immediately, when I …

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My family found me a groom and he confided in me that he enjoys anal sex. I am a virgin but I heard that it’s painful as well as unsafe. What should I do?
I am a 21-year-old woman and I live in a joint family with very orthodox views. For some time now, my family has been looking for prospective grooms to arrange my marriage with, and they have finally come across one man they appear to like a lot. There is a lot of pressure on me to marry him, and I have met him a few times. He recently said he enjoys anal sex and would not want to marry me if I was against it. I am a virgin and have heard that anal sex is painful as well as unsafe. I cannot bring this issue up with my family, but perhaps I can put my concerns down to a health issue. Please advise.

answer : You will have to understand how serious he is about this, and then decide, along with your parents, what course of action to pursue. Do not consider marriage if you are very doubtful. Anal sex is not legally permitted and it can also be painful. Besides, if done with the male wearing a condom, it can cause an infection as well

Question : My colleague inserted his penis in my vagina. Immediately, when I went to clean myself, I could feel some blood. Is my vagina too small?I am a 35-year-old single woman. I have never been physically involved with anyone. I have been friends with a colleague for eight years. Six months ago, we got intimate. Since I was a virgin, the first time, we indulged in a lot of foreplay, bonding and he proceeded, only when I was ready. He inserted his finger into my vagina. However, it was very painful and he stopped. We tried the second time, and had to stop. Fifteen days ago, we engaged in a lot of foreplay, and he tried to enter, using a condom. He did not insert himself fully, but I almost screamed and he had to stop. Immediately, when I went to clean myself, I could feel some blood. I want to enjoy a satisfying sexual experience with him, since we have waited for long. Is my vagina too small? Or is there any other problem?

Answer : From your description, it seems he has split your hymen, hence the pain and blood. That discomfort and pain is much less than what you would get at menstruation. You could apply LOX 2% gel in and around the vaginal opening and wait for 15 minutes and then wash the excess. You will not feel pain